What would a Narcissistic Mother say?
Narcissistic Mothers say all kinds of things that reflect an inability to feel what other people are feeling for others. Things like, "Too bad", "What an idiot", "Whatever", and "I don't care" are said by most Narcissistic Mothers a lot, and even if they're not said, they're suggested and thought. Narcissistic Mothers also say lots of things that put the blame on you or someone else. If you show any upset over your mistreatment, they will tell you that you're too sensitive and you overreact. You'll also be accused of not being able to "take a joke", and told that you're a cry-baby, or that you're actually "choosing" to feel hurt by something hurtful they did.
Narcissistic Mothers who have hurt you usually use lots of excuses and they may tell you that you're just jealous of them. They will invalidate you, telling you that you have a very "colorful imagination".
Some Narcissistic Mothers use pity and guilt to gain power, and these Narcissistic Mothers will say things to present themselves as the victim, as weak ones who need your service, or as someone you have "wronged":
"I see you haven't called me again -- your own mother, who sacrificed an award-winning acting career all for you!"
Because Narcissistic Mothers don't accept responsibility for things that make people feel bad, when questioned or told that something they did was rude, they commonly say things like, "I only did THAT because YOU did x... so it's actually YOU who caused this whole thing!" They may also tell you that they didn't mean it, or couldn't help it, when you know they must have, or they'll say that you've misunderstood their good, pure intentions. And your "misunderstanding" about them will always be because of your supposed shortcomings. Don't buy it.
What do Narcissistic Mothers hate?
Narcissistic Mothers hate:
- Being ignored
- Being questioned
- Being seen as common
- Being criticized
- Being disobeyed
- Being ignored
- Having to respect other people's edges/borders
- Being left out
- Coming second
- Being told they can't do or have something
- Having to follow the same rules as everyone else
- Not getting to be the boss
- Not being allowed special privileges
- Being asked to be more kind
- Not getting their way
- Being disliked
- Not being well-served
- Not getting the attention they want
- Being told they're wrong or at fault in any way.
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